Have you ever said: “I need a vacation” or “I need a vacation from my vacation?” Why do we over-plan, over-schedule, and overdo our vacations? Why do we not take well deserved vacations to recharge our batteries due to this thing called life or being an adult?

Here are some common reasons: We have a fear of missing out and we are used to over functioning in our regular lives, so we take this same energy on our vacations. As a result, we create lengthy itineraries, schedule many locations to see, and try to visit too many people. But what we often need is less, not more. We need simplicity!!

The following tips will show you how.

1. Go somewhere where your nervous system can relax. In other words, when you think of a place that creates calm and peace in the mind, where do you go? Is it the beach, out of town, or out of the country? For me its hunting. Find a balance between a place you\your significant other or your kids (if you’re bringing them along) can enjoy. If you’re bringing the kids, it’s a must to ensure there are activities for the whole family. This allows you some downtime away from parenting!!

2. Don’t over schedule it. This means stick to one location for a period (a few days or even the entire vacation). Only aim to do a few things each day, such as read by the pool, make the family one meal, do something active, spend quality time with your significant other, etc. The aim is to try not to do too much in one day. If you think it might be too much, then it probably is.

3. Savor the moment. So much of our lives are spent running from one thing to the next, and this is the time to slow down. Set an intention to savor your vacation time, foster connections with your family, and do things you might not normally do (get a massage, take a nap, eat the countries\regions food etc.). This is an experience that will never happen exactly like this again.

4. Nurture your relationships. When we have unstructured time, we have a greater opportunity to connect, listen, show appreciation, be affectionate, and foster generosity with those we care about.

5. Be flexible. Nothing ever goes according to plan. If you notice you are getting tight around how you want something to go or be, see if you can practice forgiving and letting go. Can you rethink the situation with an open, flexible mind? This will also help nurture your relationship.

6. Take time for you. You may be sharing time and space with others but see if you can carve out some “me time” every day to refill your well and foster a better relationship with your partner. You can go for a walk, take a swim, read, look at the stars, etc.

7. Tune into your natural rhythm. The instruction is to get back on your clock, not the workday clock. This means eat when you are hungry and stop when you are full, sleep when you need to sleep (yes, naps are included and are amazing trust me!!) and wake up when your body feels ready to wake up. Re-set and your mind and body will thank you.

Let me know how your relaxing vacation goes! You have my full permission to slow down and get back to the simplicity of life and let go and chill!!!!

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